This week is the third leg supporting the table of success: Love.
Traditionally, or at least the way it’s portrayed in Hollywood and the media, love is seen as the complete solution. I’m not here to argue for or against that idea, but I am here to give my thoughts surrounding how love should be an integral part of your life. Especially if you’re looking to be the most successful version of yourself.
After reading all of these definitions, what was one thing you found that they all have in common? Go ahead, take a second to think about it…
That’s right, they all focused on something outward of the self. I.E. Someone or something else. This is why friends, family, and support groups feel so fulfilling – no matter where in life your at.
But, before we get into that we need to take a look inward.
Take for example, a moment in your life of total accomplishment. This could be anything from graduating high school to getting that promotion you worked your ass off for. Now visualize this moment. How did this moment make you feel? Were you joyous, elated, disheartened, unfulfilled? In this moment, look around. Who’s experiencing this with you? Do you have someone with you or are you alone?
Think about it. Every accomplishment you achieved that you solely did alone, with no one to share in the fruits of the labor, will feel less fulfilling than if you had another to share it with.
A prime example here is my graduation from the United States Merchant Marine Academy.
When I went to this college in 2010, it was all for the means to an end. My life goal at the time was to be a fighter pilot. After 4 years of learning shit that would be less than useless to me and my pursuits, sailing around the world, and failing into traps that stunted my personal growth, I finally hit graduation day.
On June 21, 2014 I walked across that stage, along with my other 232 classmates. Everyone seemed to be joyous, fulfilled, and downright excited for their life to come…
For selfish reasons, I couldn’t accept how happy and elated my friends and family were for me, and held myself in an awful state. It took a while, but my friends and family pulled me out of that funk! A sense of accomplishment and fulfillment did eventually come, and I completely have my friends and family to thank for it.
Here’s the thing – if you don’t have some thing or person to join in on the endeavors, then true fulfillment won’t be had in the reaping of the fruit. In order to achieve the highest levels of success, you will need to include something other than yourself. You can have billions of dollars, expansive homes, private jets…. all of these things are great, but they’d be so much more if you were able to share with others, especially if you are close to these people.
Love can be any number of things for you as an individual. It could be a beautiful wife or husband, a caring family, or even just a faithful dog. I can guarantee you will feel far better in your accomplishments and in life in general. Also, if you are having a skewed sense of purpose this will be a great tool to help drive you towards your purpose as well – having a reason to search and discover will give a huge sense of purpose!
Going back to our idea of success, and that it isn’t just the financial aspect, but rather that it takes pillars to sustain, Love is very clearly something that holds it’s place among those pillars. While the table of success can stand without love, it will not be as stable or be able to have as much bounty as the table with a solid pillar of love. So, consider how and where your life is headed, where you want to be, and if you have love in it. You WILL feel more fulfillment and your success will be greater if you have the experience of love!
I’m currently reading two books that may be of use to you as you continue on the journey to success
I haven’t finished either of these books, but they are both great resources in terms of personal growth!
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